Hello World (Redux) + TMI

After going on an unexpected hiatus, I'm back! I moved into a new apartment, got another job, made some new friends, and discovered my inner bitch. I still have no idea what the hell I'm doing with my life, but it's not such a big deal right now.

Anyway, to celebrate my return, I'm going to do the TMI from Sept. 11th:

The Big O

1 – Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.

I do remember my first orgasm. I was ten. It scared the hell out of me (afterwards). Before it happened, I wasn't particularly sexual. I was curious about sex in a "exploring bodies" kind of way, but it was all looking and maybe some poking around, but nothing else. The orgasm came more or less spontaneously around the same time as my first period. I was in the bathroom when this feeling shot up from my pussy and slowly spread into the rest of me. I'd never felt anything like it before. It was incredible and, even better, it lingered. Later on (it may have been right after the orgasm) I noticed blood in my underwear. Later still, I found out that some women get incredibly horny before their periods and I just happened to be one of those lucky few. For the next year or two after that, I spent very many frustrating hours trying to recreate the experience at will. I'll still get so excited that I'll come accidentally, but I have a much better control over it thanks to those first experiences.

2 – What is your favorite way to orgasm? (Sex, g-spot/p-spot, oral, etc).

I really, really, really enjoy being fingered. Like, really. I'm usually not very vocal in bed, maybe some light moaning or heavy breathing every now and again, but I become a screaming banshee for a few skilled fingers. If you do the "come-hither" motion while inside me, I'll probably try to bite or scratch you (in gratitude, of course). I still need my clit stroked in order to come, but when everything is working in harmony, it's always one of my more stronger and surprising orgasms. Surprising because sometimes I'll also squirt, but I usually don't know beforehand if that will happen.

3 – Are there any ways you want to experience an orgasm but haven’t yet? (oral, p-spot/g-spot, with or without a vibrator, squirt, etc).

I want to have an oral orgasm, preferably while sitting on someone's face. I was really close to having one with my ex, but she ruined it by talking (insert joke about not talking with your mouth full). Call me a control freak, but I loved the feeling of being on top and riding her tongue.

4 – Have you ever had an orgasm in your sleep?

Yep. It was the strangest thing because I don't even think I was dreaming about anything particularly sexy. The orgasm stretched out and I woke up near the end of it. I've only done it twice, but both times felt amazing.

5 – What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm?

My clit. If she's happy, then everything else falls into place.

6 – How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm?

I shoot for seven times a week, or about once a day. It's the best way to get me to fall into a deep relaxing sleep at night. I'm also a huge fan of morning orgasms so if I can get one in before work, all the better (and apparently if I wake up before a certain time and don't get off, I'll stay horny throughout most of the day, which sucks).

7 – Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally cums first?

Nope. Never given or received an orgasm with a partner. It's something I'd like to remedy in the near future.

8 – Can you have multiples?

I did it once and have never been able to again. I really don't remember what I was doing then.

9 – How long does it normally take you to reach orgasm?

Depends on how excited I am. Sometimes I'll get so excited that I can't control it at all (these are usually unsatisfying orgasms though), in which case about five minutes or less from the initial stimulation. I try to shoot for at least 10 to 15 minutes though to give myself a chance to adequately build up tension and stuff. The longer I can hold out, the better the orgasm is usually.

10 – Have you ever faked one?

Yep. I faked a lot of times with my ex, just so she would leave me alone. On a happier note, I used to fake orgasms over the phone to get my friend off, which usually led to a real (and way less vocal) orgasm for me after she came. 

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TMI Tuesday: Playtime

That time of the week again!

1. DARING: What are your 50 shades?

1. I enjoy the idea that my partner wants to inflict pain on me that:
a. makes me curious
b. is titillating and sexually arousing
c. that leaves me screaming and/or crying because that’s the way I like it

I'm not sure if I would call myself a masochist, but I do get turned on by certain types of pain, especially long, slow, and hard scratches. But I have to be in the mood for it, otherwise it just hurts.

2. Do you like being forced to dress or act in a way that is humiliating? If yes, please describe. If no, why not?

Nope. That doesn't appeal to me at all. My ego is too sensitive for something like that so it would probably piss me off more than it would turn me on.

3. Do you like seeing bruises, scars, or marks that were caused during sex on either you or your partner? What kind of marks?

YES! That was my favorite part about being with my ex. She was a huge masochist and loved for me to bite her and stuff. If she didn't pressure me into so much of that stuff I probably would have enjoyed it more. But anyway, whenever there was a scar or bruise on her the next day (and she was prone to bruise easily) she would proudly display it to anyone who'd look -- much to my embarrassment at the time. For me, I have this strange obsession with the body healing itself, so seeing marks that I've made or that were made on me is very sensual.

4. Would you like to be forced to do sexual things that you don’t necessarily like to do? Yes or No.

No. If I don't like to do something, then I don't like to do it. I'm very much willing to negotiate my limits, but to be outright forced to do something I don't like (necessarily or no) is the fastest way to get me to cool off (I learned this from the same ex in #3). BUT! I like the idea of being seduced into doing something I wouldn't normally do. Any type of public sex tends to fall under this category. I like the idea of being so turned on by a partner that I'd have to have him/her right then and there.

5. Do you want to be forced to watch your lover with someone else? Yes, No or It depends.

Nope. Once again, being forced to do stuff isn't really sexy to me.

6. What dirty (sometimes inappropriate) things do you like to say to your sexual partner?

I've never really done a lot of dirty talk with a partner. When I used to have phone sex, the girl I was on the phone with did all the talking while I provided the... um, sound effects. I do enjoy hearing it though. Well, only if it's good.

Bonus: Finish this statement: I like being powerful in bed because I like to tease.

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How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblogfrom your website!

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TMI Tues: The Most

Yay! I remembered to play this time thanks to Rhye's post at Skin & Lace. My phone screamed at me to read it, which scared me out of my sleep, lol. Anyway, without any further ado:

This week’s TMI Tuesday theme is…

We want to know what thing you’ve done the most times.

1. What sex position have you been in the most times?

Missionary, come to think of it. I really enjoy straddling a partner (esp, with a toy in tow) so that's where I end up most of the time. It's strange though because my favorite position is from behind. 

2. What book have you read …?

I usually don't read or watch things more than once, unless it's for school. In which case, I've read Fredrick Douglass's Narrative like 4 or 5 times. On my own though, I think I've read Oscar Wilde's Picture of Dorian Gray like twice and Francesca Lia Block Wasteland like 3 or 4 times. Wilde is a very witty man and Block's book was the first time I ever saw prose mix with poetry like that so I was enthralled. Years later I read Anne Carson's Autobiography of Red (which I've also read more than once) and felt the same kind of wonderment.

3. What movie have you watched …?

I'm not sure, but it would have to be between High Art and Imagine Me & You. Both center around women in really great ways (probably because one of the main characters in both is a lesbian). The first has a sad, but admittedly stupid ending. While the second is very upbeat and happy (with a strangely depressing message about heteros). If I had Lost and Delirious that would probably be on this list too. Piper Perabo is so frigging amazing and hot!

4. In the last week, who have you texted … ? (no names, list the relationship or type of person)

Probably my best male friend from college. He's really big on communicating so we talk and text more than I do with anyone else. A lot of my friends seem to like to talk in person, so if I call or text them it's to see when we can meet up.

5. In the last week, what food have you eaten …?

Sandwiches. I got tired of the lunch time McDonald's run at my job, so I've been bringing a lot of sandwiches lately.

6. Today, which website have you visited …?

Facebook, as always. 

7. When dining out, where have you eaten …?

This little cafe place near my school. It's a quaint little place with awesome cake. I have many fond memories of setting on their porch with friends chatting and people watching.

8. Which sex toy have you used …?

Do my fingers count as a sex toy? Because if so, they are hands down (teehee, pun) my most used AND favorite. I'm an incredibly tactile person and I feel a bit disconnected if I can't feel the parts I'm playing with (unless I'm wearing a strap, which is a completely different story). Other than that, I've used my rabbit the most.

Bonus:  Is there something you’d love to go back and relive in your sexual past?

(Thank you to Husband of Two Sexual Minds for this week’s bonus question)

There's a LOT of things I'd love to go back and relive, but of that I really miss playing in class. It was the mix of touching, teasing, doing things in public, the possibility of being caught and the funniness of playing off arousal that made me incredibly happy. Sex is fun and funny and goofy and yea, orgasm is serious business in its own right, but I don't think that should be the single and most important goal. Maybe my ideas about sex are too romantic, but I do miss having a partner that shared that ideology as well.

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How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblogfrom your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!

Behind and Tired

Hello there. It's been a while hasn't it? Well the interwebs are up and running at my house so yay for that. I've been running around and trying to keep busy -- finally applying for jobs and such -- and I've worn myself out by staying out of the house as much as possible. I am so very behind on everyone's blogs, but this gives me something to do on my off day. I skim through my list and peek and the different pages and get excited. There's some good stuff going on in blogger while I webless.

In other news, I got another piercing. This happened weeks ago, but I thought I'd mention it here. It was just another one on my ear. My nipple, clitoris, and tongue are all without metal for the time being. Although, I may have my nipple repierced again soon. I keep meaning to go do it, but I've been so busy lately. I should be getting my clitoral hood pierced on my birthday next month and I'm not sure when or if I'll get my tongue done. I only want to get it pierced if I absolutely have to take out my lip piercing. Otherwise, I'm not going to do it. I'm in love with my lip piercing and would be heartbroken to give it up.

The job hunt is going strangely well. I have mixed feelings about this because I partially don't want to work, but I do like nice things. Besides, I have this idea to drive across the US for maybe a month or two couch surfing and living in hostels just for the hell of it. I love driving and my sister is willing to rent me a car so it seems like a cool idea, but I would really need to start saving up for it. I also have another idea to start up a small business on my own, but I'm really not in the mindset for it. Call me overconfident, but it seems like too good of an idea and something that would actually work and make a good profit. Although I do plan to add business owner to my name one day, I'm just not ready for that now. I have friends who keep bugging me about it so it's probably going to be on my mind for a while. Especially with Pride coming up.

And I missed TMI Tuesday! Boo! That's really one of my favorite games to play on here. I may pick up some of the other ones later on.

Long ago I mentioned starting up a second blog and keeping this one for personal stuff (maybe sprucing it up a bit if I can ever figure out blogger). The idea has come back, but I think instead of blogger I'm going to move to wordpress. I don't know. I have a lot of ideas and want to do a lot of things but I'm slow about everything.
That's all for now. I'm going to go to bed and fall asleep playing sudoku.

~Rogue

TMI Tuesday: Fancy Fancy

It's that time of the week again... (regular post shall follow)!

Thank you to Virtual Sin for this week’s TMI Tuesday.

FINE DINING

You are having dinner at the best restaurant you can imagine. Do not concern yourself with over-eating, or other restrictions. We want to know what you like best. What will you have for:

1. Before dinner wine, aperitif, or cocktail?

I would probably get a cocktail, maybe a martini. I don't really like wine, but I've only tried it once so far. Honestly though, all alcohols taste pretty bad to me.

2: Appetizer?

Bread...? I don't know.3. Soup?

I'm more of a salad girl actually. 4. Salad?

Mixed greens are my favorite, especially with pecans or walnuts and fruit. Yum!5. Wine or other beverage with dinner?

No thanks, water will be enough.6. Entree?

I'm terrible about giving the names of dishes, but I do enjoy chicken very much. So just about any dish with that I would gladly eat.7. Side Dishes?

Artichoke and squash sound good to me.8. Dessert?

Quite anything with chocolate on it. Bonus points if there is a warm chocolate and ice cream on the same plate.9. After dinner drink?

Sure. I don't mind drinking before and after dinner, but drinking with food doesn't agree with my stomach so much. Blame it on college.10. Which 3 people would you invite to dinner: (must be famous, well-known, living or dead, not fictional)

- For sex appeal: Meagan Good or Tina Fey  (funny + sexy = lady boner)
- For great conversation: Rachel Maddow or Wanda Sykes (smart + sexy = lady boner)
- Because you detest them: Rush Limbaugh (....ew)

Bonus: Your lover brings you breakfast in bed. What’s on the tray?

If it had to be food, then croissants, fruit and nutella. Otherwise, I'd rather just have them for breakfast. Morning sex is the best after all.

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Happy TMI Tuesday!

TMI Tuesday: Masturbation!

I can't believe it's Tuesday already again. Oh well, I will take a break from studying and play along.

M is for masturbation

1. How often do you masturbate?

Pretty darn often actually. It's a good way to go to sleep and wake up and de-stress and calm down and focus...
But really, it depends on the day or week I've been having. Most days, I'll only do it once or maybe not at all. If I'm bored or stressed out, it may jump to two or three times a day. If I'm horny and I don't have anything important that day, it can be an all day affair.

2. What are you doing to celebrate Masturbation month?

Graduating from college and masturbating more? Getting a partner to masturbate with? Eating ice cream? To be honest, I didn't know this was masturbation month so nothing really.

3. Do you like to watch your partner masturbate?
a. Yes, it turns me on.
b. Sometimes, because it gets my partner very aroused.
c. Not really, it’s boring.
d. No, it’s a turn off.
e. I’ve never experienced it but I’d like to.

God yes. Okay, I've never done it before, but I really want to! I'm a bit of a voyeur anyway and  I like the idea of seeing what gets somebody else off, especially if I have the chance of trying my hand at it (no pun intended).

4. Do you let your partner watch you masturbate?
a. Yes, it turns me on to be watched.
b. Sometimes, because it gets my partner very aroused.
c. No, it’s embarrassing.d. I’ve never experienced it but I’d like to.

I tried it once, but she wasn't interested and I felt like it had to be a porn production so that ended that. If I tried it again, it would probably have to be something my partner asked me for because I doubt I would initiate.

5. Mutual masturbation? Yea or Nay?

Maybe. I never tried it, but it sounds fun. It drives me crazy to give someone else pleasure so it would be nice to have a helping hand during. But then again, I really enjoy edging. So yea, maybe.

6. If you had an all-expense-paid trip to San Francisco to attend Masturbate-a-thon 2012would you go and masturbate? Why or Why not?

Of course! Who would turn that down? Admittedly, I'd be a little gun shy, but it's California. California and masturbation are my two favorite things in life.

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The Center for Sex & Culture
Sunday, May 27, 10am-midnight
Arrive by 9pm
$40 minimum self-sponsorship; or bring sponsorship form with pledges

All genders, all orientations welcome to explore self-pleasure in a supportive group environment. Check the next newsletter for more detail about this year’s Thon, and join us to Come for a Cause!

All donations and pledges support CSC’s operations and programs.

Bonus: Are you addicted to masturbating?

Probably. I mostly do it for the orgasm, but I really enjoy the build up, edging, and playing in different ways. Besides, if I didn't do it for a couple of days I get pretty irritable. Like most people in the morning before coffee irritable. The longest I've gone without was three days and trust me, those three days were bad for everyone.

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How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblogfrom your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!